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transmen who think they’re more “real trans” than other transmen because they act and dress like a stereotypical “normal” cis-man




fuck you.

I personally don’t take any issue with trans men who are effeminate or dress in stereotypically girly clothing as long as the experience some sort of body dysphoria. Clothes are clothes, and I believe anyone should be able to dress how they please. But considering the society we live in, as unfair as it might be, the pre-T guys who claim to be confused at why they’re misgendered donned in dresses without wearing a binder have got to be kidding. Maybe it’s a little more fair that you be frustrated by that fact, but to express genuine confusion is beyond me. 

Neither do I. And really the “more trans” part is bullshit; it’s impossible to be “more trans” than someone else. However, it IS possible to think you’re trans and not be.

I really don’t like having my medical condition taken over to make a political statement just because sex and gender are a controversial topic in society. ESPECIALLY the contradictory expectations we set around women. I really don’t like that “smash the patriarchy, become a man” is a VIABLE message in modern feminism.

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Texto postado em 17/09/2012 | 49 notes | (reblogue this!)


I’m happy being stealth. 

It’s not my choice being born white. It’s not my choice to be heterosexual. It’s not my choice to be a transsexual man. 

The route I take to transition, is my choice.

What happens beyond my transitioning, is my choice. 

What happens in my life, is my choice. 

So maybe those who keep on whining about how people see them, need to stop, grow up, and acknowledge that there’s life after transitioning and if you keep dwelling on it, you’re missing out on the rest of the choices in your life. You’re missing out on happiness. You’re missing out on having a life. 

There’s more to waking up in the morning besides Tumblr. 

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Texto postado em 16/09/2012 | 3 notes | (reblogue this!)
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"talking about women getting periods and getting pregnant is cissexist because it erases trans women who can’t have children!!!1!"

you know who else can’t have children

biological women that are infertile

Texto postado em 16/09/2012 | 12 notes | (reblogue this!)

I don’t think I really identify as FTM anymore




Fuck being a real man. I don’t care about being a real man. I don’t even feel like a man anyway, I feel like a person who was assigned female at birth and doesn’t feel comfortable being a woman. But I don’t feel comfortable being a man either, and I especially don’t feel comfortable being shoved into conventional roles assigned to either binary gender. Most of the reason I wasn’t comfortable being female (aside from periods) is that I felt like being female involved being expected to do all this shit that I couldn’t do. I’m only marginally more male than female, in that I feel like I can do the things men are expected to, but I’m really not interested. I feel like I failed womanhood and quit manhood.

That’s so typical. Many of these “trans*” people don’t want to be men, they just want to be anything but women. You want to talk about internalized hate and misogyny? What about your absolute hatred and misinterpretation of women and what they’re “supposed” to be? You people rage about gender roles so much but you’re the ones who are obsessed with them. You talk about having to be a man so you can do certain things, implying that a woman cannot do those things, or is too weak to. You call yourselves trans* just because you don’t fit your gender’s expectations, whenit’s okayto be a woman and not fit those gender roles. It doesn’t make you less of a woman. But it doesn’t make you trans* either.

Being transgender is about not being okay with your physical sex. It’s not about just being uncomfortable with gender roles. If that’s all you are then you are a woman who is uncomfortable with female gender roles. Nothing more. If you are comfortable with your body, you are cisgender, you are a woman. And that’s okay.


Plus people assume transitioning to male is “the easy way out” of the way society treats women and it ISN’T. By FAR it is NOT.

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Texto postado em 16/09/2012 | 156 notes | (reblogue this!)
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social justice sallies:you shouldn't hate on someone just because of how they were born/who they are/how they choose to identify.
social justice sallies:omg ur white your very existence is oppressive.
social justice sallies:wow ur so thin eat a fucking hamburger or gtfo.
social justice sallies:die cis scum.
social justice sallies:ew male opinions on feminism noo.
social justice sallies:wait why is everyone laughing at us?
social justice sallies:no rly y isn't everyone lining up to be an ally??

Texto postado em 16/09/2012 | 64 notes | (reblogue this!)

dear non-binary people

you are not breaking down the gender binary at all whatsoever

a male that does feminine things because they want to and not for a political statement while still being male is breaking down the binary

same goes for females that are masculine

you’re actually reinforcing the binary when you think liking masculine things while being female makes you part man

Texto postado em 16/09/2012 | 110 notes | (reblogue this!)

People who call themselves “trans*” with the asterisk. Are you every single non-cis gender?

(Source: thatsnothowitworks)

Texto postado em 16/09/2012 | 11 notes | (reblogue this!)

Top surgery Advice (specifically Double Incision - DI)


This is a list of points for those having top surgery, specifically Double Incision (DI). It is based around using compression rather than drains so some points may not be applicable but on the most part it should be useful for anyone having top surgery.

Pre Op

- Stop smoking or at least reduce your amount to under 5 a day. Smoking increases the risk of the nipple grafts not taking and generally slows down healing. Remember that these are your results for the rest of your life!

- Stop taking NSAIDs (things like Diclofenac, Ibuprofen etc) before surgery (2 weeks before) - These thin the blood.

- Do not drink at least 24 hours before surgery.

- Eat healthy foods and look after your body. You are going through major surgery and it is important for the body to be as healthy as possible.

- Take Arnica tablets (homeopathic rememdy to reduce bruising) 1 week before surgery and 1 week after surgery. (Available from Boots, Superdrug etc)

- Get lots of pillows as sleep will be quite uncomfortable.

- Get yourself a waist support to use as compression - You will have to wear this for approx 2 weeks but possibly longer. If you can afford 2 then I advise it as they begin to smell after wearing them 24/7!

- Arrange to have someone around to help you out. Many people under estimate how difficult it can be to do simple things within the first week so it is vital you have someone around to help.

- Get some button down shirts as you won’t be able to/will really struggle to get a tshirt on after surgery.

- Get some baby wipes as you won’t be able to shower for potentially 2 weeks.

- Mentally prepare yourself to go through surgery - This is always a good idea. It is never nice to think about the risks or things that can go wrong but by doing so you can be more prepared if it happens.

- Get yourself some books, games, magazines, films etc to keep yourself occupied.

- Ask questions! If you are unsure/worried/concerned/confused about something then ask the surgeon. He is there to make sure you feel secure and happy with the procedure.

- Listen to the surgeon! Take his advice - specifically about aftercare. It is so important to do this as results depend largely on how you look after youself post op.

Post Op

- You are likely to feel quite crappy. Listen to your body. Rest when it tells you to rest.

- Make sure you have someone around to help out.

- Take the Codiene (if you can) that you are given! It helps so much with the pain and (this may sound weird) makes you constipated which is a good thing as it is near impossible to wipe your ass!

- Continue taking Arnica for a week.

- Keep the waist support on at all times. It can be taken off for 5 mins a day just so you can have a break and wash (which you may need help with) but must go back on. The compression is the most important part of post op!

- If you have discomfort with the waist support, put some soft gauzes under your armpits as it stops the rubbing as much.

- Get out of the house if you can. There is nothing worse than cabin fever! Try and go for a 5 min walk if you can manage it.

- Eat fruit and nuts. They help the body with recovery.

- The waist support can put strain on your shoulders and back as it changes the way you hold yourself. I found that Deep Heat really helped release some of the tension in my muscles.

- You may feel pretty shit over the first few days. This is normal. It is okay not to feel elated and ridiculously happy. Many people feel low or down after major surgery which can partly be due to the anaesthetic. It is important to talk it out if you feel naff.

- Do not get any of your dressings wet!! It sucks to not be able to shower so babywipes become really useful!

- Use silicone on the scars (not nipples!) once able to as it aids with the healing of them and also acts as protection (ScarGuard is very good for this). Also use something like Cocoa oil and massage into the scars once able to.

- Do not move your arms too much. Basically pretend you are a T-Rex! Any stretching of the arms, lifting, pulling etc can stretch the scars (even around 6 weeks post op) and this will effect the final results.

- Do not sunbath 2 weeks post op (but I advise a fair amount longer) as it stops the healing of the scars and will make them more prominent.

- Sleep on your back and also slightly propped up if possible as it will decrease the liklihood of damage to the scarring.

- Don’t use NSAIDs until 1 week after surgery.

- Don’t go back to work too soon. Especially if you have a physical job. A time frame of 4-6 weeks recovery is recommended but be aware it can take longer for the body to fully recover.

- If you have any concerns or worries about your chest post op then speak to the surgeon! He is there to help!

- Remember you have been through major surgery! Look after yourself!!! (mentally, physically and emotionally).

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Texto postado em 14/09/2012 | 139 notes | (reblogue this!)
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If You’re Happy With Your Body, You’re Not Trans


How can I put this in the simplest possible terms?

If you have no problem with your body whatsoever. If you love your body. If you wouldn’t change a thing about your body.

Why do you want hormones and surgery to remove and/or fix the parts of your body you claim to love and enjoy so much?

Hormones change your body - going on T makes you more hairy and your hair thicker/darker, look more masculine, makes your voice drop and ultimately makes you grow a penis.

Why - if you so enjoy your vagina and breasts - why would you want this to happen to you? It’s an honest valid question and yet no one seems to have an answer. If you love your body, why do you want to change it?

Dysphoria isn’t the same for everyone. It can appear in the form of shame, guilt, hatred or fear. It’s all in our head because our brain doesn’t match our body. Our brain is male when our body is female (or the other way around for Mtfs).

If your brain is female and your body is female…why do you claim you’re trans? There is nothing trans about you. Your brain aligns with your body - meaning you experience absolutely no dysphoria- congratulations; you have what every single one of us (pre-op) wishes we had. You are cisgendered, not trans.

Think of transsexualism as an illness or disease and dysphoria as a symptom.

In order to undergo treatment for an illness or disease, youmust exhibit symptoms of that illness or disease.Why would you need antidepressants if you’re not depressed? Why would you need an inhaler if you don’t have asthma? Why would you need chemotherapy when you don’t have cancer?

Transexualism a disease, it’s an illness. Our brains do not match our bodies. The treatment for this is therapy, hormones and surgery. But just like every other illness or disease, not everyone must undergo treatment. Some cancer patients refuse chemotherapy, some people with depression refuse pills and find other ways to cope. Not every trans person wants surgery or wants hormones and that’s perfectly all right. But the one thing that all of us trans folk must have in common is experiencing dysphoria. Not crippling to the point where you rip your hair out, but just a little voice in the back of your head that constantly reminds you of how fucked up your body is. Just like every single cancer patient actually has cancer, every single person with a cast on their arm has a broken bone. You mustexhibit the symptoms of whatever illness or disease you have otherwise no one will take you seriously and you won’t be treated.

I’m not gender policing anyone. I’m not saying “To be trans enough, you have to do this and be this.” I’m saying that in order to be considered trans at all, you must experience some level of dysphoria. You can be a genderqueer MtF, you can be a pansexual FtM, you can be the manliest MtF of them all - but if you do not have dysphoria, you are not trans*. That is all.

Saying, “You don’t have to have dysphoria to be trans.” is like saying, “You don’t have to have an addiction to be put in rehab.”

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Texto postado em 13/09/2012 | 79 notes | (reblogue this!)

submit yourself :)

i am so fucking sick of seeing this blog in the ftm tag


submit yourself :)


i am so fucking sick of seeing this blog in the ftm tag

Texto postado em 12/09/2012 | 16 notes | (reblogue this!)
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